"Recognize that you do
not know the whole story. One of the things that can help you to forgive is
to acknowledge your ignorance".
Mary M. Morrissey
Has anyone ever failed you compromise? Have you
ever suffered what you believe is an injustice, harm or injury? What emotions
will awaken these situations? Angry, anger, fear, resentment, hatred, mistrust?
Did you think you could forgive?
Forgiveness does not mean allowing the same thing happen again, or approve it,
or fail to claim or initiate action to repair the damage. Forgiveness is not
Forgiveness means free of resentment, anger, anger ... Forgiveness is a
statement of personal liberation, which allows us to leave the prison of
negative emotion and move towards an area of peace, acceptance and comfort.
And no doubt, from this new emotional state, opens up new alternatives and we
have other available actions.
From this new view of the meaning of forgiveness I ask What people are angry /
or? What situations give you anger? Do you keep a grudge or resentment like a
treasure not want to lose? What new possibilities would open you to forgive? A
conversation postponed, a different relationship. Or, perhaps, a farewell, a
"letting go" someone ...
Do you forgive yourself? We are often our own worst judges, condemning us to
eternal punishment, without giving us the opportunity to accept, learn, change
and freedom from our past.
It may not be necessary to begin to forgive it. Maybe we can today to start
practicing ... practice and start learning.
"Maturity is reached
when what I have no need to judge or blame anyone or anything that happens
Anthony de Mello
"Revenge, an equal to his
forgiving one shown above it".
TO LEON WERTH
apologize to the children for taking this book to an older person. I have a
serious excuse: this grown is the best friend I have in the world. But I have
another excuse: this grown-up is able to understand everything, even books for
children. I have yet third excuse: this grown-lives in France, where he is
hungry and cold. It has therefore a great need to be comforted. If not enough
all these reasons, then I want to dedicate this book to the child that was long
ago this old person. All older children have been before. (But few of them
remember him). I correct, therefore, my dedication:
TO LEON WERTH
as a child
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
The meaning, the meaning is not in things. It is
in us ...
Forgiveness is the key to inner peace, because it is the mental technique by
which our feelings are transformed, from fear to love.
The ego is the great critic. He is always on the lookout for our shortcomings
and those of others.
It's easy to forgive the people who have never done anything that infuriated us.
Yet the people who are our teachers angry most important show us the limits of
our capacity to forgive.
Forgiveness is choosing to see people as they are "now." When we are angry with
someone, is it something I said or did that person before that time. But people
are not what he did or said. The relationships are reborn when we stop giving
importance to the perception of the past ...
Our neurosis is usually derived relations that we have a prescribed program for
the other person, or the relationship itself.
THE OTHER CHEEK
In an ancient monastery were kept in a glass case, three very valuable
manuscripts. The monks lived in rural work and alms of the faithful left them
curious who came to know the three rolls, unique in the world. They were old
papyrus, with fame.
At one time a thief stole two rolls. The monks advised the abbot quickly. The
upper part sought and was left with all his strength and ran after the assailant
- What have you done? You've left me with a single roll. Not for me. Nobody is
going to come and read a message that is incomplete. Nor does value what I
stole. Or give me what is the temple or you get also this text. So you have the
- Father, I am desperate, urgent need to make money with these sacred writings.
- Answered the thief.
- Well, take the third roll. If you are not going to lose in the world something
very valuable. Sell it well. We are at peace. May God enlighten you.
monks came to understand the attitude of the abbot. They felt that had been
loose with the thief, and was the monastery which he had lost. But silent, and
they all end the inning.
The story goes that a week, the thief returned. He asked to speak with the
- Here are the three rolls, not mine. Reciprocate. Instead I ask you to allow me
to enter as a monk. My life has changed.
Never man had felt the greatness of forgiveness, the presence of great
The abbot recovered the three manuscripts for the benefit of the monastery, now
much more popular with the legend of the theft and recovery. And a monk got an
honest worker and foolproof.