"Trying to explain
life, we forget to learn from it and above all to love...".
Did you ever see a doctor, a salesman, a
secretary, accountant, etc? And you met ... a doctor or a seller o. ..? It seems
you ever feel moved that the meeting was special? As a single, deeper ... As if
instead I found you with, for example, a doctor you had met a person who knows
or works as a medical doctor. Looks the same, however it is not. In one case we
put forward the professional and the person, sometimes not appear. In the other
case is the person, man, who appears in the first instance, and its role,
circumstantial, integrates and accompanies, but does not hide as human beings.
And things happen differently in each case ...
It seems like in a field have "reified" people. We say the doctor, as we say the
car. The car used to transport the doctor to heal. And there is some sense of
humanity that we lost, there is a meeting does not happen. We stand apart from
the human, without actual contact. And we say, quite logically also let the
doctor to cure us of a certain condition ... and not to establish a meeting, a
contact from the human. Do not say no. I'm just saying different things happen
... and remember, at this point, the movie about Dr. Patch Adams, starring Robin
Williams as a good example where we can distinguish between the two provisions
and possibilities that enables each one.
Also "reified" our everyday relationships. The head serves to order the employee
to work to fulfill these orders (not for nothing that we speak of "Resources"
Human ...). What about our most intimate relationships? Our colleagues, friends,
is a distinct possibility of meeting when I stop seeing the other depending on
what serves me. When I stop judging, claiming that my judgments are true. When I
accept it as a legitimate other. When I wonder who this person is being right
now? instead of saying "I already know, so ... or that way." When I hear it
openly, without pretending to know what is going to express, without addressing
what I'm going to respond to show my reasons.
There is a distinct possibility of meeting when he left to defend my image when
I do not intend to control or manipulate or be right. When I accept myself as a
legitimate self. When looking for explanations.
There is a distinct possibility of meeting when I trust, when I accept, when I
give myself when I am interested in the welfare of others.
Surely there is a distinct possibility of meeting with someone who is near you.
And perhaps this is a good chance to make that meeting.
Do with others is one of the most powerful possibilities that we human beings,
and we can provide a more fully. Whether it is in the personal, professional or
Do together in the relationship, through conversations (verbal, written,
gestural) that allow us to coordinate actions with other.
in this age of individualism, it seems increasingly difficult to reach
agreements, coordinate actions, build an awareness of the system (family, team,
What conversations are preventing us to do together? Is there trust in the
relationship? Do we act to save ourselves? Are we defending against a possible
betrayal? Do we ask what we need? Did we meet promises? Do we hear the concerns
of the other? Are we honest in our statements? ¿Accusing others to save our
image? How can we improve our effectiveness in doing to others?
Perhaps these questions will serve to start thinking together. Perhaps, this
question will allow us to find new ways of being in action.
Share the best corn
farmer, whose corn had always won first prize at the state fair, he used
to share your best seed corn with all the other farmers zona.Cuando asked why he
did, he said:
"It's really self-interested. The wind has the virtue of transferring pollen
from one field to another. So if my neighbors cultivate an underclass corn,
pollination would reduce the quality of my own corn. This is the reason by
greatly interests me only the best corn plant ".
Everything I give to others
What you're giving yourself.
Anthony de Mello
The most important question
During my second month of nursing school our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was
a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the
"What is the name of the woman who cleans the school?"
Surely this was some kind of joke. I had often seen the cleaning woman at
school. She was tall, dark-haired and fifty years, but how would I know her
name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank.
Before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward
our quiz grade. "Absolutely," said the professor. "In your careers you will meet
many people. All are important. They deserve your attention and care, even if
they smile and say, 'Hello!'"
I never forgot that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.
When I look at reality, looking from me, from who
I am, in my own way of being. Then, somehow I'm immediately denying the other,
because the process through my private information, which comes from my past
experiences, my training, even my genetic data. But if we learn to leave that
state of identification, without leaving but integrating it with the other,
whatever the other, there is something much broader, more comprehensive, which
is the meeting. When a person is born, begins with everything that is given, and
identifies with it, starts working from that information, and everything outside
is somehow interfered with by such information, is questioned, discussed,
filtered, translated through it.
a hard time listening to others, because in addition to the other is doing the
same. And is set to a discussion of reasons. That is, portions, or pieces of
truth, because there is the word right. And then you say no, put that there,
that has to go there or not think about it, better believe this. And you have
their reasons, sure, but these reasons are as a source of limited information.
And somehow these reasons, or portions of truth, through which one sees the
world is the belief that separate us from others. They are like a barrier that
prevents us from coming into contact with our true nature which is love, create...
"A company without staff is
like a one-stringed violin:
some notes but very little music".
"The public victory
means getting together things happen that are impossible with isolated