"When there is respect
for oneself and for others, communication is easier." Rooder
What do you mean "Respect"? At the time of our
grandparents, demanding respect meant something like: "Do as I say, and keep
silent." Demand respect meant a demand for submission and obedience. We believe
that this concept of respect is outdated, but still exists in certain areas or
In other areas also confuse respect with keeping a formal distance, or keep a
deal to save certain rules of conduct. We believe that respect has more to do
with an attitude essential that a formal treatment.
"If you think you do
not owe me anything, you owe me nothing, because I respect all beliefs and
because all beliefs are equal. These are all beliefs." Antonio Porchia
We understand and respect the "acceptance of
others as a legitimate other." This means that we accept that feels, thinks,
acts differently from ours. And that is legitimate in its own way. This does not
mean that we agree. Just the respect comes from the difference as a possibility.
“Respect does not mean
submissive fear and reverence, denotes, according to the root of the word
(respicere = look), the ability to see a person as he is, aware of their
unique individuality. Respect means caring for the other person grow and
develop as it is. Thus, respect is the absence of exploitation.”
When no respect, no struggle. Do not try to force
the other to do, think, feel, in a different way. We are not fighting for any
reason. No aggression. This respect, we propose as a basic predisposition in all
our relationships, builds trust, freedom, responsibility, consciousness.
I propose now a space of self-observation and reflection: How do you relate to
your parents, children, couples, officers, employees, neighbors, etc..? Is there
respect for the other? Is there respect for yourself?
The leader knows who has the power, but power does
not have to do wrong. You have to be very measured power. You must respect
everyone equally and not command respect through fear. The player or the people
you lead should be able to express themselves, but not out of place, there is
When operating under the cultural bias inherent in
the 'objectivity', we can not trust our interlocutor. By failing to establish
mutual trust in the living, not displayed the sense of security agents in the
conversation, why not move where you want to achieve something the thrill of
control and domination that denies the other and undermine the respect for self
and other. These emotions, beliefs and actions impede the dynamics of
coexistence in mutual acceptance.
Honesty deep: it involves the authenticity, effectiveness and respect. The key
to achieving this is to talk about the experience itself and do not describe the
reality that surrounds me. Honesty takes deeper aggression and speaks of a
common goal. This leads to humility, which is able to take my ideas "raw" and
transform them into something that serves to effectively shared.
Procedure means that we evaluate others only from our perspective, without
considering the possible validity of their own, we evaluate self-centered
perspective, without considering that the point of view of others is equally
valid and deserves our respect, when we decide things others, are not we
respect, we are saying they are not smart enough or able to manage their own
lives. When we are vile in our respect we can become dogmatic or narrow-minded.
I also learned some other things, for example, the power of respect and realize
that in many of our countries particularly in Latin America, but not only them,
respect levels are terribly low. And the power of building relationships of
respect translates into an immense power in creativity, wellness, inventanviles
worlds that we can turn our respect dogmatic or narrow-minded.