Cocrear is an Ontological Coaching Consultant. It runs training courses and training in emotional intelligence and communication in order to develop effective, well-being and relationships of individuals, teams and companies. Training and organizational consulting.



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"RefleAction" is a free publication distributed by e-mail every month.

In each tackle a specific topic through phrases, stories and small items, with the intention to reflect on our daily lives and make available new actions to achieve results that are appropriate for our purposes.


Learning by doing

Perhaps paradoxically, some of the areas where more can be learned are those where daily actions. Breathing, walking, eating, talking, listening, coordinate actions with others. These are basic living skills, we have learned in our childhood y. .. How long has it been since the review?

Learning from error

According to the dictionary, error is "unwise or wrong action." Sure ... the dictionary does not explain unwise or wrong about what ... or to whom. We may then redefine the error as "the action that produces an undesirable outcome for somebody." This "someone" I can be myself, or, in the organizational context, could be the manager, customer, etc.

Vision and Aspiration

Many of the people I talk to feel a kind of emptiness ... as a disorientation, a lack of sense. Something similar happens in business: the goal of making money, market, customers, not enough to motivate and excite your employees.

The Own Way

In the last ... 50 years? has been installed in our civilized society a very convenient habit: food packaging. Vegetables, fruit, fish, soups ... canned (or other similar container). I say it is very convenient because it is practical, accessible, comfortable, fast, clean. Sure, we know that food has the same properties that the natural food and obviously does not have the same taste

Human rights

What are the rights that we have for the simple fact of being human? What are our basic personal rights? In our daily life, relationships with family, friends, work, business ... What exercise rights and respect? These individual rights have to do with our dignity as people, our quality of life.


The decisions we make in our lives are those that are building a large extent, the way we travel and the results we get. Many times we make decisions without realizing it (unconsciously), others we driven by our emotions (fear, anger). Sometimes we decide to choosing between two alternatives that satisfy us, without looking more likely. Thus, the results we achieve, probably will not be very happy.

Personal Crisis

Do you sometimes happens to us, in living, that we are as confused, without direction. We are confusing ourselves in crisis. What we do when this happens?
Sometimes we just, we move by inertia, put on autopilot and let the circumstances, the routine will lead us.


We live in the chat like fish in water. Our daily life is spent in the middle of conversations (or other internal / s). Write an email, answer another, read, reflect, order, order, discuss, evaluate, question, comment ... Think, speak, listen. Our conversations allow us to coordinate actions, communicate and relate.


In many of the relationships we build in our daily lives we move unconsciously from the pretense of control. Try to control what the other person should do (or not do), which says or should have said, his emotions, what he thinks or feels about us ... We establish these relationships in both the family and society, as in the business.


One of the paradoxes that we live in today is that, in the "communication age", there is a strong sense of isolation. Advances in technology (Internet, fax, cell phones, video conferencing, etc..) Reduce distances, reduce times, but have failed to reduce loneliness, lack of mutual understanding, have facilitated solving the problems we have to communicate with each other.

I have no time

One of the phrases I hear quite often lately is "I have no time" or "I need time." In the daily maelstrom that we live seems that the "time" has become very scarce resource these days. What is happening to us over time?


When we talk, speak and listen. We normally think that talking is active and important part of the conversation. We think that what you say is what the other listens. Nothing is further from the truth.
Talking and listening are both active, but listening is what gives meaning to the communication, as anyone who says anything he says to be heard.


Do you ever feel moved that the meeting was special? As a single, deeper ... As if instead I found you with, for example, a doctor you had met a person who knows or works as a medical doctor. Looks the same, however it is not. In one case we put forward the professional and the person, sometimes not appear. In the other case is the person, man, who appears in the first instance, and its role, circumstantial, integrates and accompanies, but does not hide as human beings. And things happen differently in each case...


Has anyone ever failed you compromise? Have you ever suffered what you believe is an injustice, harm or injury? What emotions will awaken these situations? Angry, anger, fear, resentment, hatred, mistrust? Did you think you could forgive?

Accept the pain

Sometimes, in an ontological coaching conversation or in other areas where we get in touch with ourselves, we begin to discover our pains, our sorrows, anguish, loneliness, fear, frustration, disappointment, resentment, ... This experience is in itself painful. Discover, contact, express our own inner wounds ... hurts ... and released.

Resist change

Change is the only constant in life. Resisting change is to resist life. It simply does not work.
However, not all changes are desirable, we do not care that another change. And that's where we can intervene with our power of decision, action and leadership, leading change, to guide the direction that matters. This can be a sometimes simple, sometimes complicated, and others downright impossible, since many of the changes that can be imported are outside our area of influence.


There is much talk of "seize the opportunities before us." It seems to obvious. However, I wonder: Are there opportunities or create them? How to seize an opportunity that we are not seeing? What makes it such an opportunity and not something else?

A New Look

What do we see when we see what we see? Do we see an external reality independent of us and our watch? Or do we see a "reality" conditioned by our perceptual mechanisms (biological) and our understanding (mental model)?

Learning not to know

Learning not to know seems ... paradoxical. Whenever we learned how to learn, to develop a competence, skill or specific knowledge. However, in these times of crisis, uncertainty and rapid change is becoming more common to find in new situations not foreseen, for which we were unprepared. May wonder, then, how to be prepared for what they do not know what will happen?


I think there's a new form of leadership that is emerging in the world, and that has to do with values ​​and integrity. Integrity in the sense of coherence between what is said and what we think, between what is and what it's like: "Say what you feel, do what I say and feel what I do."


Life, in general, and particularly human, is full of uncertainty. Just as we say that the only constant in the universe is change, we can say that can only be certain of uncertainty.


Imagine ... imagine that one day, sorting and cleaning old things, you come across an old lamp.
Imagine ... imagine that a genie comes out of it as in the old familiar story grants you three wishes.
Imagine ... Imagine what would you ask? What things are important to you? What are your dreams? What is your vision?

Expectations effective

Expectations about what we expect to happen is a major source of ineffectiveness and suffering we face the people, both in our workplace and personally.
When what we hope happens, usually we fall prey to anger, resentment and frustration.

The Power of Words

There are certain lessons that have great impact on our possibilities and our lives. For example, when we learn to stand up (as a species and as individuals) have the ability to look from another point, we can walk and run, we have more agility. Not only this, but to liberate our arms and our hands is a myriad of new possibilities within our reach. Something similar happens with language acquisition.


Why do we ask? The first answer that comes to me is to ask ... for an answer. And highlights the "one", because often we are left with one answer and we believe that the only answer is that this answer satisfies the question. So, we closed the question and there is no more possible answers.


Can we discover what is new in the apparently old and familiar? Can we discover in ourselves, something new and different, so far passed unnoticed? Undoubtedly yes, we can. Sometimes, enough to just observe, self observe more carefully and be aware of ourselves. Other times, we need a teacher or someone to guide us, or just someone to show us what we are not seeing.


What do you mean "Respect"? At the time of our grandparents, demanding respect meant something like: "Do as I say, and keep silent." Demand respect meant a demand for submission and obedience. We believe that this concept of respect is outdated, but still exists in certain areas or people.

Add the differences

What do we do when we find someone who thinks or acts differently from ours? Do you accept? Do you reject? Do you tolerate? What about our jobs, our social and family environment?


"Work" What does this word mean to you? What emotions awake?
It seems that in our society is considered, many times, to work as a "necessary evil", a daily sacrifice in order to receive payment for the end of the month. We have, even a biblical mandate that says "earn their bread by the sweat of your brow" and interpret this as being normal work to be sacrificed. Enjoy the work, may be the possibility of a few lucky or maybe, in some bohemian artist.


Usually when we talk about vision, speech of Vision, talk about the north that guides our direction, purpose or goal to accomplish. Y. .. What about our vision of this? Perhaps we believe that this is given, that is, as we see ... and in this case would not make sense to design a vision of it. However, if we accept that we do not know how things are, if we become aware that we have no access to reality as it is, designing a vision of this begins to make sense.


This phrase: "Train yourself to let go of what you're afraid of losing" the last week I heard in the film Episode III of Star Wars. I wondered what things that cause us fear losing infectivity and discomfort?

To exercise any profession (engineer, doctor, accountant, etc.). Must have trained in the skills of the profession ... develop specific skills for the exercise of this activity or job. This is no novelty. However, it is important to begin to realize that these specific skills are necessary but not sufficient for professional practice or the actual development of jobs.

When we hear the phrase "life is like a game," usually associate it with a game of chance. However we see several elements that are present in every game, as in life. Here are some...




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